3 things you can do NOW to build your self worth.
Struggles in life are universal, we simply can’t avoid them. If you want to work on your problems in life, first you’ll have to work on your relationship with yourself.
If we don’t feel worthy or deserving of good things, or being treated well, we'll often have bad boundaries and allow people to take advantage of our time, resources and energy.
We end up giving way more than we get in our careers, friendships and personal relationships.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. Here are 3 things you can start today to boost your self worth.
Spend a week with yourself. Spend one week journalling at the end of every day answering these questions.
How did I speak to myself today, was I cruel or kind?
What situations did I find most uncomfortable or stressful today? How did I feel around people today?
At the end of the week, look at your entries with compassion. What can you learn about yourself and your patterns?
If we want to increase our self worth, we first need to look at how we actually feel about ourselves and the situations that make us feel most unworthy. We’re so busy in life that we often don’t even know. Becoming self aware is the first step towards cultivating better self worth.
Make one small promise to yourself today and keep it. Go for that walk, call that friend, go to that gym class, acknowledge bad habits that aren’t serving you. If we want to change things in our life, we need to start small. The more you keep the small promises to yourself, the more you reaffirm to yourself that you’re worth taking care of. Just one small step at a time can make all the difference, if we try to change drastically all at one, chances are we will fail - keep it simple.
Is it true? When you find yourself making snap judgements about yourself or a situation today, thoughts like, ‘nobody likes me’, ‘they don’t really want me here’, ‘everybody is doing so much better than I am’. Just stop for a minute and challenge that thought. Is it really true, or could you just be projecting your insecurities onto the situation? If we get into the habit of challenging our thoughts daily, we’re less inclined to believe them as truths (and we can actually change our neural pathways - it’s science!) Thoughts in the present are often clouded by emotions and experiences from the past, so challenging them can help them loose their power over us.
